that-emo-killjoy:

whoredrigo:

versacemom:

nyargthestar:

likeful:

likeful:

likeful:

i think it’s so wholesome that whenever me or my friends have issues w our plants 🌱 .. i always send my mom a pic and she gives us a diagnosis and what to do

had another plant problem so i asked my mom..

Plant not gay

Gays are happy

Why does she talk like some sort of hermit shaman who lives in a mossy cave

This is the only acceptable time I’d let someone compare me to a plant

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bad-thiings:

thealmightysystem:

callousedd:

*gaslighting parent voice* I’m sorry if you feel hurt by anything I did to you, just know that it was never my intention to hurt you and that I love you

Wait wait wait.

I’m so confused.

Is this not what a genuine apology is?

Now I’m worried I’ve been apologizing wrongly to everyone. How do I tell them I’m sorry my actions hurt them, as in I’m sorry for my actions, and sorry that the other person is having these emotions because of me, if sounding like this is gaslighting?

I thought this was the right way to do it. I don’t understand and I’m worried.

“I’m sorry if you feel hurt by anything I’ve done” deflecting blame off of you for behaviour and onto them for having the reaction

“Just know it was never my intention to hurt you and that I love you” Not addressing the problem or the pain, making it about yourself and how it was an accident, not addressing the other person

“I’m sorry that I hurt you” is a good start, along with perhaps

“I know that I shouldn’t have treated you like that”

“If there’s any way I can make this up to you please don’t hesitate to let me know”

A good formula is

“I’m sorry for _____”

“It was wrong because” or “I was wrong because” (“i was in the wrong, I shouldn’t have treated you like that” or “I’m at fault here, I shouldn’t have yelled at you”)

“Next time I’ll _____” (“consider your feelings first”/“manage my anger in a way that isn’t taking it out on you”)

“Can you forgive me?”

The most important part of an apology is acknowledging the pain caused and taking responsibility for it. Using words like “I’m sorry you felt that way”, “you don’t understand, I meant it like X”, “you know that I’d never hurt you intentionally” is manipulative and doesn’t help anyone. (Not to say that you use those phrases, or are manipulative, but we all can be and it’s important to acknowledge these behaviours and cut them out in order to form healthy & strong relationships)

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prokopetz:

I’d be the last guy to deny that basic biphobia is a thing, but I suspect a big chunk of the “untrustworthy bisexuals” stereotype also boils down to the bizarre notion a lot of people seem to have is that it’s reasonable to demand that your partner “earn” your trust by never interacting with any other member of the gender(s) they’re attracted to, and the concomitant fact that it’s impossible to fulfill this demand when the set of genders you’re attracted to is “all of them”.

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holisticfansstuff:

hxasinthus:

i wish it was 1600 so i cood spelle words howe everr my harte desyred

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calamitys-child:

calamitys-child:

calamitys-child:

Just rediscovered potentially the funniest thing I’ve written in recent memory

Imagine if people wrote all their Les Mis modern aus in the style of Victor Hugo

An excerpt

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liberalsarecool:

Tax the rich. You are not the rich.

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lookataleaf3000:

dankmemeuniversity:

sensible business policy

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gayvoidprince:

heathcliffrichard:

I can feel The dryness of those markers in my bones

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